Pregnancy making you feel fat? Ummm, yeah. Oops, I know I’m not supposed to say that out loud, but let’s get real, there are some days when being pregnant is not exactly a self-image booster.
For all we’re “fed” about how blissful & beautiful we’re “supposed” to feel during our pregnancy, shouldn’t there also be a place to come clean when pregnancy leaves you feeling like a flubber like balloon? Pregnancy can mess with your body image psyche. Add a boatload of hormones into your already ballooning state, then stand back and prepare to experience a self-image meltdown or two.
I am pregnant. 16 weeks to be exact. And I FEEL big. Part of me doesn’t care at all. I’m pregnant for crying out loud! And I am thrilled–lucky–to be having my first baby. Still, I can’t say that being happy about a pregnancy makes you immune to body image issues….
Here’s a snippet from a conversation that took place between my husband and me last night:
Me: “I’m feeling fat, like, not just pregnant fat, but fatter than I should be.”
Wes: “Really?..(insert annoyed face) You’re pregnant.”
Me: “I’m serious! I’m too big for how far along, I am. Other pregnant people gain in their bellies. I’m gaining in my hips, butt and boobs!!!” So, I grab a small plate (that way I don’t fill the LARGE ONE with food and get bigger boobs.)
[Wes enters the room. And lifts his shirt to compare bellies.]
Wes: “Yeah, cause you know this is sexy! And what’s my excuse? (referring to his pretty non-existent belly. And rarely do you see a pregnant woman who gains just in her belly! “He takes the small plate away from he, hands me a large one and tell me, “you’re not starving my child!”
Me: Laughter and wanting to punch him all at once.
Where I Am
It’s not like I’m Jabba the Hut, but I’m the FURTHEST THING from “all belly” . Why does it bother me? Because I’ve lost my muscle and I feel like flubber. So,YEAH it bothers me. I also think it’s hard to avoid obsessing about size when
- You have fought your entire life not to be overweight.
- You see cute, skinny pregnant people very time you open your computer, get on your phone or go to the mall.
Think about it: The first thing anyone does when they see a pregnant woman is stare at her body–then tell her she looks good or big or small or, the worst, ask her if it’s twins.
So despite the fact that I am a very-happy-to-be-pregnant pregnant lady, I’m not 100 percent immune to this stuff, which is kind of a bummer.
How about you? Were you more or less body conscious when you were pregnant? How do you think you’ll handle pregnancy weight gain? –Susannah